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Published: 17 October 2022

Are you the feeder in your relationship?

Dieters and emotional eaters are often the people encouraging their partners to overeat in a relationship, according to new research from the University of Surrey. 

The new study focuses on the eating habits of 76 couples and found that individuals who diet or use food to manage their emotions - such as eating because they are cross - were more motivated to display ‘feeder behaviour’ within relationships. 

Professor Jane Ogden, co-author of the study from the University of Surrey, said: 

"People often feed others even when they are not hungry for reasons such as love, waste avoidance or as a sign of status - but this new study aims to understand how this behaviour functions within a relationship.  

"What is fascinating is that we found that people who use food as a tool to aid their own emotional well-being were also encouraging their partners to overeat. Of course, this is worrying as these behaviours can lead people to become obese, and other long-term health issues." 

The data comes from a new Feeder Questionnaire developed by the team from Surrey, with the results correlating with existing literature on eating behaviour.  

The study also suggests that contrary to popular beliefs, relationships often have two feeders, especially if both people agree on certain issues, such as feeding to avoid waste, to show someone their affection or simply offloading the food on their own plate.  

Professor Ogden continues: 

"This research confirms that social pressures within a relationship play a key role in our food intake. The next step for our research is to find out whether these feeder processes are the same within other social groups, such as friendships, families and same-sex relationships." 

The research has been published in the journal Appetite. 


Notes to editors 

  • Professor Jane Ogden is available for interview upon request.  

  • Contact the University of Surrey press office via or call the Media Team Manager, Dalitso Njolinjo, on 07720767399. 

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